Choosing to always be the reliable one for others may look strong from the outside, but it can quietly drain your energy, time, and sense of self over the years. You get used to listening more than speaking, fixing problems before anyone asks, and pushing your own needs to the very end of the line. Carrying on with regular counselling sessions can help establish a precious space where you are able to be truthfully, tentatively and wearily yourself without feeling that you’re getting anything wrong.